Make Sure Your Voice is Heard -VOTE

Make sure Your Voice is Heard- Vote

    Your Voice Can Never be Silenced

 

my vote counts, your vote counts
it’s a right, a privilege, a responsibility
as contributing members of society
selecting a government that will push initiatives,
            put in place changes and visions
of a better country that we envision
the party you choose, it’s your decision
my vote counts, your vote counts
we need to cherish our right and civic duty it’s not “eeny meeny miny moe”    or pick your favorite color
read up on the parties, analyze their agendas
listen to debates before you make that x
and place the ballot in the box
my vote counts, your vote counts
why would you waste the thing that
so many cried for, so many fought for, so many died for
if you notice
so many are still crying, still fighting, still dying for
embrace your right, privilege, responsibility
let your voice be heard
go out and vote-David McLennon    

Life happens...

 Wow.  What a summer!!  I took some time to watch and learn what other wives were going through.  I believe that when using a venue as this informational  highway to convey a message, it is important to have a wider perspective.  Also, it was good to meet and greet others to gain fresh and true reality of lives that may be different than my own.  Once taking this on it seemed as though the dam broke in my life and my own marriage.  I asked God "What did I do? What did I do wrong?  Why the struggles, the drama?"  Especially in the area of my "solid" marriage, what is going on, my Lord?"  What I learned is that God will reveal to you things as He chooses but you have to be quiet or you will miss your lesson.  And that lesson can be attached to your blessing.

To update you, I have been spending time with my friends that are in different stages of marriage.  Some happy.  Some are not.  There are a few contemplating divorce. One contemplating infidelity.  One, despite her intense anger with her spouse is determined to continue to work at it with so much tenacity that is commendable.  As we sat and fellowshipped, one thing we collectively learned is  that in everything there is a lesson to be learned.  One friend learned to speak freely and realized that admitting she needed help was not a sign of weakness. It was one of the first steps to gaining strength to improve her marriage.  Another learned that your stated level of commitment is going to be tested. And that once you think you've got it, you learn who is truly in control.  Not you nor your mate. God is...
 Personally, I have learned that sometimes it is necessary to just to be quiet.  As a married woman I have really been tested in the area of just being quiet.  A simple hush.  Zip it. Silencio.  Shhh.  Listening and not quickly responding.  I must emphasize that remaining quiet does not signify weakness.  Quite the contrary, having the ability to be silent is such an aquired strength.  Sign of maturity. Silence allows you to hear. wait and trust God.  In James, I love that book in the bible written by Jesus' brother James, James 1:19 Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for a man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.  Hmmmm.   A simple nugget to chew on.
My single readers may feel "this doesn't apply to me."  Yes it does!!!  I am putting you up on the rules of the game.  Place it in your purse for your future. ( You listen closely to the homeless woman who lost her house, as well as the one that just signed escrow papers).   I am going to reveal so many more of our conversations  Look forward to reading and learning,  As I shared this weekend with a few ladies, I am going to please God by putting into practice the tools for living that He gave me. Yes, there is the Proverbs 31 Woman but she will send me into major depression because I truly fall  so short. (Now if you have accomplished that, PRAISE God!!!)  When and if I get there with you, we can shout together.  But I know now when I get to heaven, I am going to ask her how she did it!!!
Blessings to you all!! Love you...
Let me know how you are doing. 
And how you feel about this little note from the desk of real wife....

40 Years of Hate=BITTERNESS

Thanks to the last blog comment mentioning one's heart. I am compelled to search scripture and my own personal life experience for this one for REAL y'all. After searching the scriptures for answers as always,  I was amazed that after a brief concordance search (God ROCKS!!!!)  I found this.... The humble shall see this and be glad. And you who seek God, your hearts shall live (Psalm 69:32).   We think often of "through the heart the mouth speaks... Or say that "charge it to my head not to my heart." The bible really has a lot of scriptures dealing with matters of the heart. The heart is

What does your heart hold?

so amazing. As small as it is, it can hold on to so much. You remember the couple I mentioned before. The two that broke up over 40 yrs ago and the woman still holds on to the past to this day. Bitterness, hurt and pain are powerful feelings and can consume your life. I have been working on this piece for weeks because it is so important not to misinform anyone. My true heart and pure thoughts are to share the goodness of God and the great plans He has for us all. So in the matters of the heart I truly had to wait for His voice. Scriptures share with us the story of David. We all have heard about some parts of his life. Whether it was him as a young boy or a valiant king; we are somewhat familiar with his story. What is interesting to me is when Samuel was searching for the next King of Isreal the bible says David was initially overlooked. In Samuel's and even his own father Jesse's eyes, young David didn't look like a king. The bible says in 1Samuel 16:7 when Samuel arrived at the house, he thought he found who he was looking for in David's older brother, Eliab. But the Lord said to Samuel "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. the Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.(NIV) So as far as relationships go, platonic or otherwise look at the other persons' heart. Knowing it can shed light on many things and avoid embarrassing disagreements, hurts and pain. If you know someone truly has a kind and generous heart,

Spend Time with GOD

don't be so quick to become angry if they forget something or a misunderstanding occurs. Truly their heart isn't designed to instill pain. On the other hand if you know that their heart is selfish and self-centered no matter how FINE they may be, well you can figure the rest out for yourself. Later on in the next chapter, Eliab became so angry with young David and they both showed their true hearts. Read 1 Samuel 17 for yourself. To all my not yet married ladies, please keep that in mind. During your precious time, (that's what I call the time spent while waiting on your mate, because during this time you learn how precious you really are), it is important to truly get to know one's heart. As I shared before, some relationships are for loving and some are for learning. Any married woman can attest to the fact that once married is not the time to learn where your spouse's heart really lies. Thanks for the heart to heart. Be blessed. Until the next time, hope you enjoyed a little note from the desk of a real wife....

Breaking up Made me Better not Bitter....

Last month was such a busy month with Mother's Day, the Memorial day holiday and prom season. It provided yet another opportunity to view relationships. And I began to chuckle as I was able to bear witness to an estranged couple that were involved in a relationship that ended over 40years ago. Surprisingly, the animosity still exists. When I questioned him, he has no clue what he did. But she seethes and you can tell the pain and hurt are still present and are just as fresh as they were when whatever happened occurred. Unfortunately, because children are involved there are choices to be made. Stand next to Dad or sit next to Mom. Incredibly the families have grown so accustomed to the behavior only outsiders feel uncomfortable. It got me to thinking, some relationships are forever and some are for growing. Whatever it is, be a better woman because of it not a bitter one. Everything done on this Earth has purpose. Life's journey includes finding out what that is. I am 100% in favor of marriage forever don't get me wrong but sometimes we have to be mindful of the relationship choices that we made. For example, years ago I had a very close male friend. I called him my male best friend and we got along great. So great in fact we thought since we were "best friends" we should get married. Why not? Disaster!!! It took time to get back to the friendship we shared but we both become better persons from what we learned in that relationship. He now has a wonderful wife whom he loves and I am happily married to my husband. But there are people holding on to their hurt and bitterness like a cancer and have lived with it so long, they probably don't know how to experience life otherwise. It can be all consuming and prevent new possibilities for love and happiness. Let it GO!!! Let God's love comfort you and saturated those broken areas. Can you imagine carrying a stinky, dirty, rotten piece of meat around with you everywhere you go? That is what unforgiveness and bitterness are. Most have forgotten what made them pick up that smelly, stinky, rotten thing in the first place. So think about it. In all you do, trust in the Lord as stated in Proverbs 3:4-5; with all your heart and He will direct your path. What do you think about it? Are you better from a past relationship? Or are you still bitter? No longer able to love or trust? Let me know by leaving a little note on the Desk of a Real wife....

Promise to...

Promises, promises.... When posing the question to myself, I begin to realize that the sentiment isn't true that promises are meant to be broken. Broken promises lead to broken hearts. Often we minimize the significance of keeping one's word. Whether it's the promise never to leave or do that again, or that this won't hurt or even I will pay you back; A promise is a promise. In marriage we promise to love, honor and cherish. We promise through thick and thin, through good and bad, for richer or poorer. But when the relationship thermostat gets turned up, "That's it! Deuces we are out!" But what about the promise we made? Personally, I have spent time soul searching to determine why do promises mean so much to me in my life? I figured out it has nothing to do with separation anxiety or committment issues, it is just a standard ingrained by years of living with my grandmother. "If you give your word, then keep it! It is all you have. Your word is something that money can't buy." This principle should be important to every woman married or single. When we choose to make a promise we need to be honest with ourselves first and foremost. It's easy to agree or promise to do ANYTHING when emotions are in control. Promise to love, to cook (or at least learn how to), or to forgive. Whatever the promise may be, remember to keep it. Not doing so can break the heart of someone you love. And that person may be you.... Just something to ponder on as you read this little note from the desk of a real wife.

Hello everyone, we humbly apologize for the hiatus but as we began this spiritual endeavor it was governed in our hearts to only speak as led by the Holy Spirit. This week has been an emotionally bittersweet one. One member of our team decided on leaving our city to embark on a new adventure in another state, but thank goodness for high speed Internet( she can work from anywhere). And another is launching her own blogspot. We are so excited for both but will miss them terribly. As Mother's day quickly approached us I began to revisit the thought of the first relationship that most have, with their mother. From that all other ideas and theories about relationships are formed. Whether it was good, bad or absent that relationship helped mold how you relate to others. The bible tells us in Ephesians 5:1 Therefore be imitators of God as dear children, and walk in love as Christ also had loved us and given Himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma. I remember imitating my mother as a young child, wanting to wear her shoes, wishing I had an Afro as big as hers( it was the 70's y'all)! Then as a teen saying to myself I am never going to be like her when I grow up!! Much to my chagrin, looking at myself in the mirror I look like my mother. When hearing how I speak to my children I sound like my mother! The bible shares with us to be imitators of Christ. In all things, in all ways. Don't try to be just like Mike, strive to be like Christ. So to all the mothers that follow our blogspot, Happy Mother's day!! Enjoy. Remember the sweet smelling aroma that described our Lord Jesus Christ. Kiss the babies that honor you. Hug the husband, baby daddy or significant other (just keeping it real!!) that will pay homage to you. You are so deserving of the love. And no matter what relationship you had with your mother, love you so that you can love others. Remember the best times and the sweet smelling aroma. If it was all good then share that with someone else who may not have the fondest of memories so that they may grow in love. Happy Mother's Day From the Desk of a Real Wife

NO TITLE, JUST REAL TALK....

First and foremost, I want to commend the member of our team that stepped out of her box of expertize  (she is the executive graphic images consultant) and said " I want to write something." When she first made the comment,  I hesitated for a minute and said really??? Not because I had any doubts about her abilities but because she has sooo much inside of her, that I didn't know if she would be able to get it all out in such a way that she wanted. Sometimes things get lost in translation. But she did a remarkable job and we are all so proud... You will be hearing more from her and the single woman's perspective in the future.
In reading her blog, the responses were overwhelming.  Some comments were made publicly to the post and others were sent privately. Not surprisingly, some stories were similar but with different characters. I generally try and respond to each comment but this time I realized that I have to make a statement to all,  collectively.  This may be a two-part series.  Firstly, I wanted to address the fear we have to trust God with everything.   Fear to leave.  Fear to wait.  Fear of being alone.  We may know in our hearts we are deserving of something better but we tend not to trust God's timing of deliverance.  The story of the children of Israel is similar to some single woman of today. We can take a 40 yr journey to arrive at 10 day destination.  Only because have to rid ourselves of the Egyptian ways and thoughts and practices before we can be delivered a complete vessel worthy for the Master's use into our promised land.  What I mean by Egyptian ways are the mistrust, bitterness, unforgiveness  and any other negative emotion that we picked up in our past relationships and we continue to carry around like a Hermes Birkin's bag long after he has moved on, married and living a you-free life.

Conviction

I love how she used the disinfect your self analogy. Absolutely. Use bleach if you have to. The only pure bleach is indeed going to our Lord and Savior Jesus.  I am not one to compromise my belief. Always keeping it real.  I will tell you this is not what I heard, this is what I know.  Yes, me.  Years ago I was the woman in those anonymous comments.  I was raised in church.  Lost my virginity before marriage, yes me. Had children out of wedlock, me again. Lived in sin with my "baby daddy'', yes me.  Convicted when I went to church on Sunday morning after having an amazing Saturday night with him playing wife.  Hello, here I am again.
As I try to be a little transparent I want you to know that when I came off the fence and took the tearful and scary stance to trust the God my mom prays to. The God my grandmother sang to. To get to know Him in the true essence for myself, my world changed. The pains of everything fell off like bound chains.  It didn't happen over night either;  but in the process it happened.  I started on my knees, weak and broken in pain, completely lost. The next place I remember finding myself  was in a place of peace and purpose. Looking back wiping my brow and turning quickly forward to the new possibilities.

No Longer on the fence

The Peace in Prayer 

I am sharing to encourage and empower you to have faith and trust in what God has for your life.  We here at TDOaRW want you to do what God tells you to do.. Know that He loves you and there is purpose for you. In Jeremiah 29:11 it is written For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope And you will seek me Me and find Me when you search Me with all your heart. 
We are not done yet but we just want you to meditate and chew on that for a bit...
Until next week ( I told you it's a two-part series) just a morsel from the desk of a real wife..........

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From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: LET the MANGY MUTT GO!!!!

From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: LET the MANGY MUTT GO!!!!: In talking with a friend this morning for hours reminding her during her brokenness of how much of a Queen she is, I had a thought !! L...

LET the MANGY MUTT GO!!!!

In talking with a friend this morning for hours reminding her during her brokenness of how much of a Queen she is, I had a thought !!

LOCK IT UP

You are QUEEN!!

                How many single women ignore and dismiss the BOLD warning signs because of the sexual involvement with their man ?   I am speaking to all single ladies , particularly my single Christian ladies.  I mean there is a reason to tie our legs to together with a chain and MACK-10 Pad Lock while dating.  Why is it that some ladies are running around holding bibles completely confused at why God is not blessing a relationship He never intended for us to have!!  Some of us even get so bold in our desperation to keep a man that we begin to reason with our  sexual sin.  We question like we don’t believe God's instructions.  “Where does it say in the bible we can’t have sex?"  "That's the Old Testament law anyway, we're not still bound by that." “Where does it say in the bible that I can live with my boyfriend?” " He said we are going to get married one day and it's only a piece of paper anyway." The Bible may have been written many years ago but the message is still clear like a 2012  text message and Facebook post . Paul says in 1Corinthians 6:12 Everything is permissible for me but not everything is beneficial.  Reading further  down in verse 13; The body is not meant for sexual immorality. And he clearly states in Chapter 7:8 as he speaks to the unmarried woman and widows,  It is good for them to stay unmarried as I am but if they cannot control themselves they should marry for it is better to marry than to burn with passion (NIV).  Spiritually... and just keeping it real maybe physically if you lay with the wrong dog!!!! <pause> Take that IN . (You can get burned!!!)   Ladies,  a lot of Christian women tend to be as low hanging fruit, too available for the easy picking.   No fault placed.  It is how we are taught.   It's  burned into our heads  "when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing." Which is very true BUT baby Don’t let the first mangy mutt tell you “God said you are his wife without praying and asking God for yourself!!  Make him date you and court you and DEFINITELY seek Godly counsel!!!  NO late night bible studies at his place or YOURS!!!!  Let’s also pay attention to the warning signs which you will definitely see if your legs are kept closed. If the MACK -10 bolt doesn’t work, go buy a MACK-24 dead bolt and pay attention !!  If a man never answers his phone when you call but always calls you back 10-15 minutes later only talking for 2-3 minutes to say he loves you and you can’t remember a time when he’s ever answered the phone  on the 1st ring, “HE’S A MUTT”!!  WARNING!!!  He has a girlfriend or God forbid,  a WIFE who has just went to the store to buy something for him to eat!!  NEVER DATE a married man. ( I shouldn't have to tell you that but just in case, I put it out there).  A WOMEN OF INTEGRITY IS WHO YOU ARE!!  If a man has cheated on every girl before you, and has never shown commitment up until this point and he is over 25,  WARNING!!! RUN!!!!!!  Character and Integrity are important!!!.. If every time you are with your boyfriend he has a new excuse  why he can’t pay for one meal and you are always paying for everything WARNING!!! He may need some time to find a job before you continue to date him!  If he has more than four children and does not have a current photo of any of his children because he has not taken the time to go and see about them WARNING!!! Think about that !! Is that a man?  If your Man whom you love to death,  sells you a dream about him being someone who is productive; yet every time you see him he is sitting somewhere just talking about it, never being about it.  Not pursuing the vision,  just standing back looking and talking.. WARNING!!!

Keep it under lock and key!

            Ladies,  now don’t get me wrong no man will be perfect and neither are you.  There will be times in a relationship where there is no money but he’s still a good man. He may still live at home with his Momma but he is actively working his plan.( i.e. finishing school,  helping her pay her bills while saving for his house or building his business)  Those men are in process.  They are just not talking but working it out and KUDOS to them!!   We are talking to our sisters about spending their time with the MUTT’s .

            If your MUTT has just left you because “the sky was blue...”  What is that all about.?  We all know mutts never really have a reason to go astray. They just want to spend more time sniffing around somebody else's tail!! LET HIM GO!!  Turn that sexual light off because it will always be your weak point.  Think about it !! Haven’t you saved money since he left!!!!  Hasn’t your smile seemed a lot bigger since you know he’s no longer screaming or barking to be walked?  Just be thankful that you didn’t get stuck with that One-eyed, One-legged mangy flea ridden Mutt who spends all his time sniffing others anyway !!!! ( Ok I am back Woo-sah) SOOOO next Disinfect your house!!! 
Take out the Lysol !! Spray down everything he touched twice!! Pray over every place he slept or sat!!! Take everything he has left out of your house !! Place it in a bag and give it back through mutual friend.  And the Most IMPORTANT  thing you must do is DISINFECT yourself!!!  Because once the two have become sexually connected there are soul ties that need to be broken. Sorry that means you have fleas for right now.  There is still hope. Thank God for His mercy and grace. Take time and cleanse.  Look in the mirror and tell yourself  “I’m worth waiting for the man God designed just for me. We were created for each other.   I am God's masterpiece for my mate and he for me. Not just anybody can be that man!!!"  Be obedient while being patient.  WARNING : Dogs always come back home. So make sure when he comes knocking on the door crying because he will be crying “I made a mistake” “I am a new man”  “trust the God in Me” you grab your broom(the bible) and you beat him with it.  Then close and lock the door.  Later, don’t forget to go back and DISINFECT your porch.!!!!! 
Caution: The approach is  different if you were with a snake.  They bite. So throw hot water on them from the window and make sure there are no breaches(sex) in your walls. Cracks in the floors.  Snakes are sneaky.  Be  very careful your breach can be as simple as your child so guard them just as well .

Don't Forget what they Look like

Just a reminder, GOD WILL SEND  "YOUR" HIM.  BUT UNTIL THEN GRAB THAT MACK-24 DOUBLE BOLT SPECIAL AND SNAP IT ON!! CLINK-CLINK!!!!!

             And remember if in the past you have slept with your boyfriends or you have moved in with them to keep them and now today you are SINGLE!!! That’s means your way didn't Work!!!  Now think about giving God's way a chance!!  Its OK. We support you and will continue to pray for you and watch him bless you …

Until next time ,just a little note from the single staff at From the Desk of a Real Wife

They Seem Cute at first but then!!

 THEY BITE......and leave scares

From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: Figuring it out in the Nick of Time

From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: Figuring it out in the Nick of Time: In Darkness there is always His Light Today we celebrate that we have had over 1000 views to our blog site. We are so grateful and ho...

Figuring it out in the Nick of Time

In Darkness there is always His Light

Today we celebrate that we have had over 1000 views to our blog site. We are so grateful and honored that  women have taken a minute out of their busy schedules to view our blog.  It is our fervent prayer that your lives have been positively impacted.
 Since our first collaborating post that December evening, so much has happened that has fostered much growth.  Challenges, peaks and valleys, gains and losses, but through it all God has remained faithful. This Sunday the worship song reminded us of that.   In darkness and trials....  My God never fails....
 So blessed to know that I figured it out in the nick of time...

In all things Pray for Direction

Life, sometimes can make you feel uncomfortable and discouraged.  Before learning more about  how this blog works, I became discouraged.  I mean you can see for yourself we have only 11 followers.  I asked God, "was I mistaken?"  Is this REALLY what YOU wanted me to do?" I mean no one is reading it. Only 11 followers. God really? Maybe its a joke and I am crazy.  So as I do, I went into my prayer closet and asked for clarity.  Didn't hear that day nor the next or the next. But while waiting, I was awakened in the night with a word from Him to post.  In obedience I did.  Still days later no new comments. No new followers.  "Lord, really?" I questioned.  Then I was told " in all you do, do it as unto me so that no man can boast ( A Combination scripture, just for me).
Then last Sunday,  A young lady said " I love your blog!" (Thanks, Bev).  I said really? Thanks, I was so caught off guard. Then later someone else shared with me about recognizing her own strength.  As I fought back the tears I said  "Lord, thank you for reassuring me".   The words to the song echoed in my head, my God never fails. I am so glad I was able to figure it out in the nick of time.
So to all that are going through; Praying for some break through in your life,  be obedient as you patiently wait. Whether it is a job or husband or anything else that your heart desires. We fail as we prematurely give up and give in but know this that my God never fails...
AGAIN thanks for reading and sharing with your friends.
Love life,  Live life and Love yourself..

Gods Love Never Fails

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Today as we celebrate Love... The one specific day set aside for the sole expression of love, we must be mindful love is every day. But on today, make the most of THIS day.  If you are in self preparation for marriage ( single for some reason today is not the a fitting term),  LOVE you. Treat yourself to lunch.  Write yourself a note of love. Most importantly, rededicate yourself to Christ. The author and designer of love. Take the time to look in the mirror and say I LOVE ME SOME ME!!  Learn to be comfortable in your own skin.  Your life choices which may or may not at the time seemed correct,  they are what mold you into the woman that you are.

To those that are married, the same holds true. Love you some you,  so you can love you some him. Make the time and take the time. It is so essential for your physical, mental and marital health.  Love beyond your expectations. Give a smidgen  more than you even think you can. No holds barred. Go into it with Christ leading you so that you will never have regrets. Life is so unpredictable. The unknown journey is what we are promised but Gods word gives us direction, instruction and protection.

Continue to love...Surprisingly it cost less than anything you can buy but is worth far more.  Love God. Love yourself.  Love your spouse.

From the desk of a real wife.....

The writers of At the desk of a real wife like to extend our deepest apologies to our followers for our recent hiatus.  We had a blog prepared to be released before the Valentine's day holiday to encourage those in love and seeking love. Also, one written for the day after for those that might have experienced disappointment if their expectations had not been met.   But with the recent untimely death of a wonderful sister,  mother and remarkable woman,  we were truly experiencing a tremendous loss. We could not let another day go by without acknowledging that she will truly be missed.
As every one begins to think back to her life, we also begin to reflect on our own. We hear the songs and remember where we were and who we were with.  Whether or not you loved her music or criticized her antics we have to remember she was a woman who was like most of us. She dreamed. She loved. She worked hard and conquered the world. The same world she loved so much turned their back when she experienced her trials and shortcomings. We all watched in awe. Personal mishaps and mistakes are usually done in private. We all prefer it that way and have that option.   Unlike us,  all her drama was displayed in front of the whole world.  When we experience trouble or pain in our lives only our best friend has the privilege to travel that journey with us.  We can fall and get back up again and no one has to know but us.  We can go through our time of bad choices and only a select few know our intimate secrets.  I remember her saying "How good it felt to be looked at and not be judged." I know that there are many of us that share that same sentiment.
 Also, when we think of Whitney we think GIFTED. When I think of the gifts that God bestows upon each and every one of us I am led to Matthew 25:14. The man entrusted his servants with different gifts, or talents (depending on your version).  Now what they did with them while he was gone led to them receiving the man's reward to share in his happiness upon return.

So whatever your talent is: trust God, walk into purpose and live your life for His glory.  Pray for guidance to learn  your destiny so when you are called home, He will say " welcome,  my good and faithful servant."  Remember that He may give you one talent and your neighbor five. But it is what you do with YOUR TALENT that makes the difference. Don't continue the blame game. Or hater game.  Forgive, love and move forward and if you need help, seek it.  Love yourself.  Believe in yourself.  Encourage others.  The devil will prevent you from believing in your gifted talents.  He will trick you into believing that your one talent is not worth as much or has as much significance as someone else's. But it is. It was specifically designed just for you and just for His purpose.
Remember you are wonderfully made... Let me know how you feel about this note from the desk of a real wife.....

I Didn't Know My Own Strength

As I sit here writing with tears in my eyes, the phone rings.  Should I let it ring?  Looking at the caller ID I know who it is. I mean right now I am having my own personal meltdown. I am at the point where something I want so badly and can have it too, if only I simply compromise. And I want it bad y'all.  I mean I noone will really know. And if I do it, who will it hurt? Then I hear that gentle voice, "the God you serve will." As my phone continues to ring I know the other person is in need of an encouraging word.  But how can I?  I am sitting here with my own broken heart. My own myriad of emotions. Have you ever been there? When you question where am I going to get the strength to encourage someone else without sounding fake.  How can I put my own drama on the back burner and put on my happy face?  How often do we as women just go through?  How often do we endure the losses and disappointments in life and keep it pushing?  How often do we smile to keep from crying? How often???

Buzz... she's leaving a message. As I think about the faith struggles we endure and I am comforted in knowing that what ever I need I can find in scripture. God loves us so much He left His uncompromising word for us.  Despite being written over hundreds of years ago, the Bible speaks to us accurately in 2012.  He tells us in Matthew 11:28 come to me all ye that labor and are heavy burden and I will give you rest. Rest and believe.... I get exhausted sometimes ALWAYS trying to be ok. Some times I need a mental health vacation but have no time to take it. That's when I  find the strength in Christ. Truly we can do all things through Christ who strenghtens us.
Don't get me wrong,  there will be days that only when we cry out can we gain enough strength to get through.  But know this,  you are not alone. Don't let the devil lie to you and let you believe that you are.
Trust and believe...










 Be strengthened. Be encouraged.  Thanks for reading a little note from the desk of a real wife...

DID HE JUST SAY NO??

I know its been a while  since our last post but we made a promise to God not to use these posts to vent  when we are experiencing something  that might taint what God has to say through us with OUR emotions. It happens all too quickly and then retractions have to be made and so forth.

In dealing with personal issues the question did arise however, that evoked much thought and prayer. How do you handle God saying NO??
I  don't mean the " delayed doesn't mean denied, wait " Or the NO because its crazy, wrong or harmful.  I mean straight out NO.  NO to the car you have been saving for.  NO to the child you have been praying for.  NO to the healing you have been fasting for.  NO to that spouse you have been saving yourself for . NO to something you have wanted and waited for for so long...Just NO...
How do you handle it? This is a question that I had to ask myself.  I know I didn't handle my latest No response from God very well.  I questioned him like a child. Whhhhhyyyy????  Then, I went through the laundry list of the good I am doing to show that I am deserving.  Still No.  Then,  I pouted and stomped like an angry, spoiled child.  Still, No.  Then I did the unthinkable... I got angry.. How can you tell me No! It is so unfair. I thought you said you love me!! Look at them and what they're doing you said Yes to them!! What's up with that???
Have you ever been there or done that? I will understand 100% if I don't get any comments on this blog.
I am being so transparent here.  Maybe you have never experienced a "NO" from God but for those of us that have,  there is comfort in knowing that we are not alone.  When searching scriptures for answers I find in the book of  Ruth, women who experienced a "No".  Naomi experienced loss of her land, her husband and her sons. Her faith was truly tested. Now bible scholars, I know there is no exact scripture that says she asked God for restoration of their lives or for their circumstanstance to change. But scripture does show she was angry enough to want to change her name to reflect how she felt about her situation.. That is only one example.  Throughout the Psalms,  David cries out to God and shares his heart.  He compare himself and his enemies and asks God why do they prosper when they are enemies of God?   Thank God we have recorded scriptures to show that we only have limited vision of what God sees generational.

David Cried Out!!

My words of encouragement as simple. Just trust God.... I know we don't understand it all. He says in Jeremiah " the future plans He has for us are hidden in Him." We have to trust and believe His word.  Some times are easier than others. But our God is just, merciful, loving and faithful to all those who believe....

Repent!

And lastly, if you have ever become angry because of a No from God. Seek forgiveness and repent. Don't allow the devil to use your shortcoming to be a foothold against you.  He has a predictable way of doing that.
Until next time.. I wish you LOVE, PEACE AND BLESSZINGS!!!
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