NO TITLE, JUST REAL TALK....

First and foremost, I want to commend the member of our team that stepped out of her box of expertize  (she is the executive graphic images consultant) and said " I want to write something." When she first made the comment,  I hesitated for a minute and said really??? Not because I had any doubts about her abilities but because she has sooo much inside of her, that I didn't know if she would be able to get it all out in such a way that she wanted. Sometimes things get lost in translation. But she did a remarkable job and we are all so proud... You will be hearing more from her and the single woman's perspective in the future.
In reading her blog, the responses were overwhelming.  Some comments were made publicly to the post and others were sent privately. Not surprisingly, some stories were similar but with different characters. I generally try and respond to each comment but this time I realized that I have to make a statement to all,  collectively.  This may be a two-part series.  Firstly, I wanted to address the fear we have to trust God with everything.   Fear to leave.  Fear to wait.  Fear of being alone.  We may know in our hearts we are deserving of something better but we tend not to trust God's timing of deliverance.  The story of the children of Israel is similar to some single woman of today. We can take a 40 yr journey to arrive at 10 day destination.  Only because have to rid ourselves of the Egyptian ways and thoughts and practices before we can be delivered a complete vessel worthy for the Master's use into our promised land.  What I mean by Egyptian ways are the mistrust, bitterness, unforgiveness  and any other negative emotion that we picked up in our past relationships and we continue to carry around like a Hermes Birkin's bag long after he has moved on, married and living a you-free life.

Conviction

I love how she used the disinfect your self analogy. Absolutely. Use bleach if you have to. The only pure bleach is indeed going to our Lord and Savior Jesus.  I am not one to compromise my belief. Always keeping it real.  I will tell you this is not what I heard, this is what I know.  Yes, me.  Years ago I was the woman in those anonymous comments.  I was raised in church.  Lost my virginity before marriage, yes me. Had children out of wedlock, me again. Lived in sin with my "baby daddy'', yes me.  Convicted when I went to church on Sunday morning after having an amazing Saturday night with him playing wife.  Hello, here I am again.
As I try to be a little transparent I want you to know that when I came off the fence and took the tearful and scary stance to trust the God my mom prays to. The God my grandmother sang to. To get to know Him in the true essence for myself, my world changed. The pains of everything fell off like bound chains.  It didn't happen over night either;  but in the process it happened.  I started on my knees, weak and broken in pain, completely lost. The next place I remember finding myself  was in a place of peace and purpose. Looking back wiping my brow and turning quickly forward to the new possibilities.

No Longer on the fence

The Peace in Prayer 

I am sharing to encourage and empower you to have faith and trust in what God has for your life.  We here at TDOaRW want you to do what God tells you to do.. Know that He loves you and there is purpose for you. In Jeremiah 29:11 it is written For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope And you will seek me Me and find Me when you search Me with all your heart. 
We are not done yet but we just want you to meditate and chew on that for a bit...
Until next week ( I told you it's a two-part series) just a morsel from the desk of a real wife..........

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From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: LET the MANGY MUTT GO!!!!

From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: LET the MANGY MUTT GO!!!!: In talking with a friend this morning for hours reminding her during her brokenness of how much of a Queen she is, I had a thought !! L...

LET the MANGY MUTT GO!!!!

In talking with a friend this morning for hours reminding her during her brokenness of how much of a Queen she is, I had a thought !!

LOCK IT UP

You are QUEEN!!

                How many single women ignore and dismiss the BOLD warning signs because of the sexual involvement with their man ?   I am speaking to all single ladies , particularly my single Christian ladies.  I mean there is a reason to tie our legs to together with a chain and MACK-10 Pad Lock while dating.  Why is it that some ladies are running around holding bibles completely confused at why God is not blessing a relationship He never intended for us to have!!  Some of us even get so bold in our desperation to keep a man that we begin to reason with our  sexual sin.  We question like we don’t believe God's instructions.  “Where does it say in the bible we can’t have sex?"  "That's the Old Testament law anyway, we're not still bound by that." “Where does it say in the bible that I can live with my boyfriend?” " He said we are going to get married one day and it's only a piece of paper anyway." The Bible may have been written many years ago but the message is still clear like a 2012  text message and Facebook post . Paul says in 1Corinthians 6:12 Everything is permissible for me but not everything is beneficial.  Reading further  down in verse 13; The body is not meant for sexual immorality. And he clearly states in Chapter 7:8 as he speaks to the unmarried woman and widows,  It is good for them to stay unmarried as I am but if they cannot control themselves they should marry for it is better to marry than to burn with passion (NIV).  Spiritually... and just keeping it real maybe physically if you lay with the wrong dog!!!! <pause> Take that IN . (You can get burned!!!)   Ladies,  a lot of Christian women tend to be as low hanging fruit, too available for the easy picking.   No fault placed.  It is how we are taught.   It's  burned into our heads  "when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing." Which is very true BUT baby Don’t let the first mangy mutt tell you “God said you are his wife without praying and asking God for yourself!!  Make him date you and court you and DEFINITELY seek Godly counsel!!!  NO late night bible studies at his place or YOURS!!!!  Let’s also pay attention to the warning signs which you will definitely see if your legs are kept closed. If the MACK -10 bolt doesn’t work, go buy a MACK-24 dead bolt and pay attention !!  If a man never answers his phone when you call but always calls you back 10-15 minutes later only talking for 2-3 minutes to say he loves you and you can’t remember a time when he’s ever answered the phone  on the 1st ring, “HE’S A MUTT”!!  WARNING!!!  He has a girlfriend or God forbid,  a WIFE who has just went to the store to buy something for him to eat!!  NEVER DATE a married man. ( I shouldn't have to tell you that but just in case, I put it out there).  A WOMEN OF INTEGRITY IS WHO YOU ARE!!  If a man has cheated on every girl before you, and has never shown commitment up until this point and he is over 25,  WARNING!!! RUN!!!!!!  Character and Integrity are important!!!.. If every time you are with your boyfriend he has a new excuse  why he can’t pay for one meal and you are always paying for everything WARNING!!! He may need some time to find a job before you continue to date him!  If he has more than four children and does not have a current photo of any of his children because he has not taken the time to go and see about them WARNING!!! Think about that !! Is that a man?  If your Man whom you love to death,  sells you a dream about him being someone who is productive; yet every time you see him he is sitting somewhere just talking about it, never being about it.  Not pursuing the vision,  just standing back looking and talking.. WARNING!!!

Keep it under lock and key!

            Ladies,  now don’t get me wrong no man will be perfect and neither are you.  There will be times in a relationship where there is no money but he’s still a good man. He may still live at home with his Momma but he is actively working his plan.( i.e. finishing school,  helping her pay her bills while saving for his house or building his business)  Those men are in process.  They are just not talking but working it out and KUDOS to them!!   We are talking to our sisters about spending their time with the MUTT’s .

            If your MUTT has just left you because “the sky was blue...”  What is that all about.?  We all know mutts never really have a reason to go astray. They just want to spend more time sniffing around somebody else's tail!! LET HIM GO!!  Turn that sexual light off because it will always be your weak point.  Think about it !! Haven’t you saved money since he left!!!!  Hasn’t your smile seemed a lot bigger since you know he’s no longer screaming or barking to be walked?  Just be thankful that you didn’t get stuck with that One-eyed, One-legged mangy flea ridden Mutt who spends all his time sniffing others anyway !!!! ( Ok I am back Woo-sah) SOOOO next Disinfect your house!!! 
Take out the Lysol !! Spray down everything he touched twice!! Pray over every place he slept or sat!!! Take everything he has left out of your house !! Place it in a bag and give it back through mutual friend.  And the Most IMPORTANT  thing you must do is DISINFECT yourself!!!  Because once the two have become sexually connected there are soul ties that need to be broken. Sorry that means you have fleas for right now.  There is still hope. Thank God for His mercy and grace. Take time and cleanse.  Look in the mirror and tell yourself  “I’m worth waiting for the man God designed just for me. We were created for each other.   I am God's masterpiece for my mate and he for me. Not just anybody can be that man!!!"  Be obedient while being patient.  WARNING : Dogs always come back home. So make sure when he comes knocking on the door crying because he will be crying “I made a mistake” “I am a new man”  “trust the God in Me” you grab your broom(the bible) and you beat him with it.  Then close and lock the door.  Later, don’t forget to go back and DISINFECT your porch.!!!!! 
Caution: The approach is  different if you were with a snake.  They bite. So throw hot water on them from the window and make sure there are no breaches(sex) in your walls. Cracks in the floors.  Snakes are sneaky.  Be  very careful your breach can be as simple as your child so guard them just as well .

Don't Forget what they Look like

Just a reminder, GOD WILL SEND  "YOUR" HIM.  BUT UNTIL THEN GRAB THAT MACK-24 DOUBLE BOLT SPECIAL AND SNAP IT ON!! CLINK-CLINK!!!!!

             And remember if in the past you have slept with your boyfriends or you have moved in with them to keep them and now today you are SINGLE!!! That’s means your way didn't Work!!!  Now think about giving God's way a chance!!  Its OK. We support you and will continue to pray for you and watch him bless you …

Until next time ,just a little note from the single staff at From the Desk of a Real Wife

They Seem Cute at first but then!!

 THEY BITE......and leave scares

From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: Figuring it out in the Nick of Time

From The Desk Of A Real Wife ...: Figuring it out in the Nick of Time: In Darkness there is always His Light Today we celebrate that we have had over 1000 views to our blog site. We are so grateful and ho...

Figuring it out in the Nick of Time

In Darkness there is always His Light

Today we celebrate that we have had over 1000 views to our blog site. We are so grateful and honored that  women have taken a minute out of their busy schedules to view our blog.  It is our fervent prayer that your lives have been positively impacted.
 Since our first collaborating post that December evening, so much has happened that has fostered much growth.  Challenges, peaks and valleys, gains and losses, but through it all God has remained faithful. This Sunday the worship song reminded us of that.   In darkness and trials....  My God never fails....
 So blessed to know that I figured it out in the nick of time...

In all things Pray for Direction

Life, sometimes can make you feel uncomfortable and discouraged.  Before learning more about  how this blog works, I became discouraged.  I mean you can see for yourself we have only 11 followers.  I asked God, "was I mistaken?"  Is this REALLY what YOU wanted me to do?" I mean no one is reading it. Only 11 followers. God really? Maybe its a joke and I am crazy.  So as I do, I went into my prayer closet and asked for clarity.  Didn't hear that day nor the next or the next. But while waiting, I was awakened in the night with a word from Him to post.  In obedience I did.  Still days later no new comments. No new followers.  "Lord, really?" I questioned.  Then I was told " in all you do, do it as unto me so that no man can boast ( A Combination scripture, just for me).
Then last Sunday,  A young lady said " I love your blog!" (Thanks, Bev).  I said really? Thanks, I was so caught off guard. Then later someone else shared with me about recognizing her own strength.  As I fought back the tears I said  "Lord, thank you for reassuring me".   The words to the song echoed in my head, my God never fails. I am so glad I was able to figure it out in the nick of time.
So to all that are going through; Praying for some break through in your life,  be obedient as you patiently wait. Whether it is a job or husband or anything else that your heart desires. We fail as we prematurely give up and give in but know this that my God never fails...
AGAIN thanks for reading and sharing with your friends.
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Gods Love Never Fails

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