Our last note discussed our first relationship; thats with our parents. The question was posed how do you pattern your marriage? Is it based on what your parents did or did not do? Real talk. We are given the opportunity to learn from every situation that life brings forth. A profound wife of over 25 yrs of marriage states" because of what I saw in my parents' marriage I have strong sense of commitment, I am committed to making my marriage work. The idealism and the realism ring true. Every day in your marriage might not be a Disney vacation, but it is an adventure." As society sees the easy dissolution of marriage in those famous and not so famous or even the lack of commitment to the vows that were spoken before God and these witnesses, questions arise can I have the happily ever after? The word of God tells us in Proverbs to "trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths." Trusting in God with ALL your true desires and submitting to His will for your life is one of the secrets to a happy you. Submission??? What does that mean to the RealWife in the year 2012? Let's tap into that next time.... Until then, a little note from the desk of a real wife.........
I never thought that my relationships with parents ,carried over into my relationship with someone I love.
ReplyDeleteWell written Ronnell. We are products of our upbringing and it's up to us to break the negative traits we may have learned from our parents.
ReplyDeleteSome are accustomed to constant complaining, yelling and rarely paying compliments to their spouses because they never saw it growing up.
Well, our own lives are a perfect platform to stem that tide, beginning with us. Not seeing love from your parents is not reason enough to not give love and respect to your mate. We're born to love. It's a matter of us cultivating it and allowing it to flow.
More relationships would flourish if spouses stop sentencing their significant others for emotional or physical crimes their parents may have inflicted on them.
Finally, if one can forgive, then happier one can live. In the words of Evangelist Dr. Wanda Davis Turner, "The shortcut to a healing is forgiveness."
Thanks so much Eric for your male perspective. It is so true. Relationships can be hindered due to lack of forgiveness. That is huge and we will really dig into that. Stay tuned...
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