What all does it mean? Why?? Where do I go?? When????

  Now that the hustle and bustle of the holiday shopping is nearing over, we can take a moment to Selah, or Woo Sah, or simply breathe. In this pause, we begin to look at our lives.  This is the time we reflect over our lives as we begin to formulate yearly resolutions.  We may attempt the same one we fell short on last year. Or come up with something new. Planning for the future. We all have plans. We had a plan. Especially pertaining to this blog. We were going to discuss specific topics systematically. Submission (begin reading 1Peter 3),  blended families, intimacy, just to give you a preview... but our Lord in all His glory deems us to submit to His plan.  Proverbs 16 verses 3 tells us to "Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established."  In verse 9 the confirmation comes in the words,  "a man's heart plans his way. But the Lord directs his steps." Wow!  Isn't the Word of God awesome. As Christian wives, the Word gives us the many tools needed for our  job.  As women, we take on many roles. Whether you're a wife, have been or will be; you are still a woman. A wonderfully, uniquely designed creation of God.  During this time of review, remember this. Yes, you will find that some choices you made, if given a "do over" you might have done them differently. But don't continually beat yourself over the head.  Don't dwell in the valley of poor choices. Recognize what they were. Learning experiences,  Poor planning or failure to plan. Ill preparation. A growing phase. (My 20's was my dumb decade). We are the summation of our experiences.  My grandmother told me its better to make  many mistakes than making the same mistake many times. If you keep going into debt, or for single ladies if you keep dating the same kind of man, that's an example of the making the same mistake many times. Please as you plan your resolution, make it simple. Something that you are truly able to commit to.  More importantly, utilize Godly counsel as the bible instructs us to do.  In Proverbs 11:14, it tells us "Where there is no counsel, people fail..." Live life knowing that Gods purpose for your life will be found as you truly seek Him and submit to His will for your life.  Life is a journey, not a race.  Until next time, just a little note from the desk of a real wife....

FIRST LADY KARYN RUSSELL
LISA GARDNER
MARCHELL BAILEY

Our First Relationship

Our last note discussed our first relationship; thats with our parents. The question was posed how do you pattern your marriage? Is it based on what your parents did or did not do? Real talk. We are given the opportunity to learn from every situation that life brings forth. A profound wife of over 25 yrs of marriage states" because of what I saw in my parents' marriage I have strong sense of commitment, I am committed to making my marriage work. The idealism and the realism ring true. Every day in your marriage might not be a Disney vacation, but it is an adventure." As society sees the easy dissolution of marriage in those famous and not so famous or even the lack of commitment to the vows that were spoken before God and these witnesses,  questions arise can I have the happily ever after? The word of God tells us in Proverbs to "trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths." Trusting in God with ALL your true desires and submitting to His will for your life is one of the secrets to a happy you. Submission??? What does that mean to the RealWife in the year 2012? Let's tap into that next time.... Until then,  a little note from the desk of a real wife.........

December 20,

Its Best to Begin at the Beginning

Often when we don't know where to begin, it's best to begin at the beginning... The first commandment with promise is to Honor thy father and mother so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you Exodus 20:12. Honor, longevity and His promise. Interestingly enough, from our first relationship; the one with our mother and father is where our patterns of relating behaviors take root. Whether still living or deceased; an active participant or absent, wives and husbands tend to use that first relationship as a template for all others including their marital relationship. Think about it... When you look at me who do you see??? Until next time... A little note from the desk of a real wife

December 17, 2011 

The Introduction to " From The Desk Of A Real Wife"

Real Women of God,

Tonight our ordained vision came to fruition. Inspired by the Holy Spirit it is our hope that our vision will  speak to all women: married, single, engaged, divorced, widowed...hurt, broken, lonely, seeking...from those who are guarded and angry who have not shed one tear, to those who conceal themselves in the finest of garments and the expensive tangible toys to distract the world from their  inner turmoil through the challenges that life's experiences bring.  Those who need to express the inner hole of brokenness, to those who feel their voice needs to be heard, this is the place for you.   In a world where "wife" is being defined by television shows where women who have bore children for men and have chosen to cohabitate get to label themselves wife, we wanted to give our perspective from women who have stood before God and society and taken the vows to wear the title of wife and have chosen to weather the challenges that the institution of marriage often brings.

For those of you like us we hope to bring you our hearts, minds and talents to be the AUTHENTIC women of God,  He called all of us daughters of the kingdom to be..............................................................

From The Desk Of The Real Wives